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How to Win Friends and Influence People

Casting stones and belittling the other side is not the way to win.

I am guilty of this just as much as anyone else. As a designer and developer, Flash has always been great part of my life. The way to keep Flash around is not with the numbers we have on the ”I’m with Adobe” facebook fan page, and it’s not by calling people idiots or stupid. The hatred will only further distance us from our goal of gaining others to embrace Flash for the amazing product that it is and can be.

Has Flash ever crashed my machine? Yes. Does it happen as often as Steve Jobs says? No. Has a non Flash page crashed my machine? Yes. Has quicktime ever crashed my machine? Yes. So what do we do?

It reminds me of a book I read several years ago. “How to Win Friends and Influence People“.

There are 3 main principles with handling people:
1. Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.

Twelve Ways to Win People to Your Way of Thinking:
1. Avoid arguments.
2. Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never tell someone they are wrong.
3. If you’re wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4. Begin in a friendly way.
5. Start with questions the other person will answer yes to.
6. Let the other person do the talking.
7. Let the other person feel the idea is his/hers.
8. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
9. Sympathize with the other person.
10. Appeal to noble motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas.
12. Throw down a challenge & don’t talk negative when the person is absent, talk about only positive..

If we want people to take us seriously we have to admit where we are wrong and be sympathetic with a solution. The facts have been skewed and there are a lot of angry people out there, being angry back will not win them over.

For instance, I know for a fact that  sometimes when a deadline is looming and budgets are tight the last thing I have time for is to code for is a “fail scenario”, especially since it does not happen often; I should. This may have caused some machine crashes on slower internet connections. I am going to make it my goal to find time regaurdless of budget and deadline to code for “fail scenarios”; even if this comes at a personal expense to myself.

I truly believe if we listen to the criticism and respond with acknowledgement and a true desire to please, the tides will turn and we’ll win some over. Otherwise, even if we “win” we’ll still have a whole lot of people out there that hate Flash, if only out of spite.

Anyone else with me on this?

Gizmodo Fails to solve my iPhone problem – Created new Vodka Tonic Holder

Vodka Tonic Holder

By now I have more iPhone posts than about flash or flex but since I cannot call a client from my contact list I cannot do any flash or flex for them! I guess email would work but, dahh its more fun complaining.

Anyways, gizmodo may have come up with a solution for NEW iPhones but so far has failed to help me – and by me I mean the world. They are probably over there with their new iPhones having a “My new iPhone is working party”. Lame! cause the rest of the world still suffers. :(

If this never gets solved perhaps we should come up with new ways to use our iPhones. Here is my idea

iPhone Fail! Hello 911… yes, iPhone says I can only call you now

First of all can I say I feel really stupid for actually upgrading on the first day of a software release. With Microsoft or any other company we have grown to not trust I wait weeks or months to upgrade. But this morning I am thinking… oh hey its Friday and not a lot of Flash / Flex work to do so I’ll tool around with my iPhone and upgrade. OMG MY BFF DEATH! My iPhone sits in emergency only mode with no way to recover. I get a message on iTunes that says it is my fault… how rude

We could not complete your ITunes Store Request. The network connection timed out. Make sure your (ha did you get that YOUR) settings are correct and your network connection is active, THEN try again.

I don’t know about you but I have tried again about 500 times. Click on party shuffle click back on iPhone. The more I do it the more pissed I get and want to throw my iPhone out the window.

I feel sorry for me but I feel more sorry for (well not really more sorry for) but kinda sorry for the people waiting in line right now to find out that they can buy a phone that is completely useless for the day or few hours of server down time. I bet some guy that this whole upgrade process was trusted to is being fired or promoted right now.


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